Since we have moved and don't know many people we don't have anyone who can babysit Munchkie. At least no one after 5pm. Munchkie's Daddy and I know that we need to spend time together, doing more than sitting on the couch at our computers watching TV, just the two of us. During Munchkie's Daddy's first few weeks back at school, I told him that I would like to meet him so that I could see what the area was like where he went to school. So we met for lunch. Then I had something for work that ended mid morning, and met him for lunch since he would be out of school at one. We created a tradition. Since he only has one class on Thursdays and nothing but studying on Fridays, we decided that this would be our date time. We are paying for a babysitter Monday through Friday from 8am-5pm, so why not take advantage of that babysitter for dates?
We now meet for lunch together every week if we can, so that we can spend time together. I drop Munchkie off at the babysitter's, Munchkie's Daddy at the subway station and then come home and get ready. When I take the time to shower, shave (even though I think hellllooooo fall, goooooodbyyyyyyye razor), put makeup on and wear something besides a tshirt, it makes it feel a little bit more than an ordinary day. It makes me feel special and the day special.
I have enjoyed following The Dating Divas and reading their tips and suggestions to keep romance alive. They have great ideas from big dates to little things you can do, each one to make the other person (and yourself as well) feel special and a lot of times for not much money. We have been trying out different restaurants around town and I'm starting to realize that lunch is definitely a cheaper alternative to dinner. We can try out different menus at nicer places for half the price. Last week neither of us were even hungry for dinner, so it really saved us money!
We find that it is essential to our relationship to set apart this time together. We tend to be pretty busy and our schedules don't necessarily line up together. So even though we may spend time together at night, we both are too tired to actually do much else besides sit there. Sometimes after working my brain is so fried that I can't even carry on a conversation or focus on what Munchkie's Daddy's is saying, which isn't that great for our relationship or for his self esteem to be honest. When we set aside this time to be together, we know that our main focus is on the other person, we have set aside the time physically and mentally. This is a huge deal when both physical time and mental space are precious in this family.